You Are The One Documentary Film

Its official, we are making a documentary. We’re still trying to settle into the thought that someone wants to use their immense talent to develop and produce a film about our journey. The project mastermind is filmmaker Barbara Rosenthal. Barbara has been making films since she was seven, her first effort being a Super 8 take on the Arab/Israeli conflict, loosely based on "How the Grinch Stole Christmas". So issues based art has always been a part of her repertoire. We are stoked to work with Barbara and the rest of the crew on this project and can’t wait to see where this new adventure takes us. Since we will be shooting while we travel, let us know if you would like us to consider adding your campus or community to the film.

The process of making "You Are The One" will occur in two phases. The first phase involves accumulating support from individuals to kick-start field production and initial editing. Phase two will involve grants that will allow us to finish the film, enter it in festivals, and create a distribution network. Our distribution efforts will be focused on college campus communities in an effort to change the culture of sexual assault.

This week, is the kick off of the fundraising efforts to get this important and exciting project rolling. You can support this effort by investing a few dollars towards the development of our independent film designed to help shift the campus culture. Or simply, share this announcement with your networks. No matter how you choose to help, we will be forever grateful for your support! To learn more about this project, watch the fundraising trailer and to donate please visit youaretheone.bbnow.org. 

Interested in being a part of the documentary? Send and emailt to info@kellyandbecca.com to learn more.

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Sexversation Nation Update

Since the launch of Sexversations® on Valentine’s Day 2009, we have been amazed at the warm and enthusiastic response our entertaining educational tool has received—both the program and the products. Sexversations® is actively being used in Resident Halls, Violence Prevention offices, Women’s Centers, by Campus Activity Boards, Peer Educators and Fraternity men and Sorority women. In additional to college campuses, communities and organizations such as the United States Military, County Health Departments and various offices of Planned Parenthood are also using Sexversations®. While this is certainly not an exhaustive list of who is sexversating, it has given us insight to who is actively leading their communities in conversations that will help contribute to a more sexually empowered culture. It is a remarkably exciting time for us as we look for additional opportunities to grow the resources that support the Sexversation® nation (more on that soon)!

Sexversations® program at SEMO

In the past year, we have presented the Sexversations® educational program at such prestigious conferences as the Bacchus and Gamma General Assembly, Sexual Assault in Our Schools National Conference, National Association of Campus Activities National Conference, Association of Fraternal Leadership and Values Central Conference and National Conference for College Women Student Leaders as well as numerous college campuses and military bases throughout the country. The consistent feedback we receive is that the program is getting important conversations started. We have gotten positive comments about the implementation of a text in option during the program. This is an exciting feature that creates a safe (anonymous) space for participants to share their thoughts with the entire audience and it also allows us to capture data from thousands of participants on various issues related to sex, sexual health, relationships and sexual assault. Each campus that hosts Sexversations® receives a post program report with their specific data. We decided to compile all the available data and give you a snapshot of some of the responses we have been given. While this is not inclusive all the information we have acquired it gives you an idea of some of the responses we have received. If you are interested in learning more about our outcomes send an email to us at info@kellyandbecca.com.

Without further adieu…some of the results!

Members of their communities make the best partners?

Yes 45%
No 55%


Is a person is still a virgin after giving or receiving oral sex?

Yes 70%
No 25%
Undecided 5%


When should someone tell their partner they have an STI (sexually transmitted infection)?

Before they are intimate 64%
The sooner the better 26%
If and when they ask 3%
It’s different with each partner 3%
I don’t feel they have to disclose 4%


Do you know someone who has been sexually assaulted?

Yes 73%
No 27%


Do your sexual boundaries change while on vacation or spring break?

Yes 40%
No 60%


We hope you find these numbers interesting and worthy of discussion. If you are interested in ordering Sexversations® materials please visit www.sexversations.com send us an email at info@kellyandbecca.com. For more information on bringing this revolutionary program to campus contact The College Agency at info@thecollegeagency.com, subject: Sexversations®.

Take me back to New Orleans

Many of you know that Becca and I have a deep rooted love for the great city of New Orleans. The Let's Talk About "IT" journey began on a road trip to NOLA more than a decade ago and so it was especially nice to return to our spiritual home to work with Tulane University. A full circle moment for us.

Thank you to the hundreds of campuses and communities who have allowed us to share our story and our passion with you. The last 8 years have been a dream come true.

The giant shiny red condom walking around campus to advertise our program was a highlight!

Health Promotions Team- they are the bestess!

Peace, Love and Sisterhood

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, this time of year we write a lot about healthy relationships because we feel understanding what that means helps clear up the misconceptions about sexual assault and clarifies how we can all be a part of the solution to address and eventually end sexual violence. But instead of talking about our intimate partners we wanted to revel in the idea that the love and respect we share for one another as BFF’s and sisters of the soul, that you and your friends share for one another is also deeply significant. So as we prepare for Valentine’s Day (a Hallmark scam sure but a scam with candy) we won’t just be thinking about our lovers (sounds so much sassier than husbands or partners) who we are blessed to share our lives with. We will also think about and honor one another and give attention to the importance of nurturing all the most cherished relationships in our lives.


Who will you honor this Valentine’s Day?

I just started reading The Twisted Sisterhood by Kelly Valen. If Oprah hawks it we will buy it. Valen examines female relationships, sharing the results of her unique survey of over three thousand women. She also shares her own painful experience with girlfriends and provides insight for a future of genuine caring and true sisterhood. I just started the book, but I have to say it seems totally in line with the celebration of friendship, what this edition of our enews is all about. Have you read it? What do you think? What books do you think exemplify the power of friendship?

Boredom + Bookstore = Photo Shoot

A rainy afternoon in California with too much time on our hands and no place to go. Why spend our downtime reading when we can act like we're reading instead?

California Home Girls

April, Lauren and Sabrina showing off the new One Student posters.

We got to spend some time with our No Woman Left Behind home girls this weekend. They inspire, amaze and dazzle us beyond measure. Honestly, we could not love these women more if our life depended on it!

We accomplished a lot during our west coast One Student/ No Woman Left Behind weekend retreat. The No Woman Left Behind Bystander Intervention Training Program is almost complete and we put the final touches on the No Woman Left Behind campus program (see description below).

No Woman Left Behind
Whether it’s your friend, sister or a complete stranger, step in and make a difference.

No Woman Left Behind is a bystander intervention program created by women for women and the men who care about them. In this empowering program, April, Lauren and Sabrina share their personal and life changing story to offer a powerful message about values, sisterhood and responsibility. The No Woman Left Behind program challenges students to raise their standards, become role models and contribute to a unified campus community.

On an average night at a seemingly typical college party, three members of the De Anza College women’s soccer team intervened when they believed a young woman was being sexually assaulted by members of a college athletic team. By following their intuition and doing what these friends refer to as “the right thing to do”, they saved a woman’s life. Their actions inspired a local campus to start the No Woman Left Behind Campaign which is now a national movement that is helping students enact change on campuses throughout the country. No Woman Left Behind was established to educate communities about sexual assault and to create a culture that does not wait for someone else to take action.

Meet the young women who inspired the No Woman Left Behind movement that is helping students enact change on campuses throughout the country. Hear their extraordinary story and personal journey, and learn how you can be an active bystander.

For information about brining this fabulous trio to your campus send us an email at info@onestudent.org.

Happy Friendiversary!

According to a friend of ours on facebook, this week is National Best Friends Week. While my internet fact checking came up with a different time of year to celebrate we decided to buck the system and get the party started early. Renegades? Maybe. Or just two best friends who have stood by one another for the past 21 years and always open to a reason to bust out some cake.

Just yesterday the topic of our friendship was the basis of an interview with a fabulous peer educator from Northwestern. She interviewed us for an article she’s writing (appearing soon on the OneStudent.org community wall). Her slant and insight are well beyond her years. Her focus was on the role we can all play as members of a survivor’s support system and she wanted our point of view on how we can all be better friends while respecting the disclosure process. We talked a lot about what an honor it is anytime someone trusts us enough to share that they have been sexually assaulted—a privilege Kelly nor I ever take lightly. I think it is important to remember that our friend is likely not disclosing to us because they expect us to have all the answers, but because they believe we will listen, that we will believe them and we will help them seek out support and resources. There is no one size fits all response, but showing up and keeping the focus on the survivor is a good place to start. It is ok not to know everything. It took us years to be this brilliant- kidding! We are all works in progress and knowing we can help to set a positive tone for someone’s recovery process is a beautiful gift. If someone discloses to you- you have earned their trust and should feel honored. If you want a more matter of fact list of suggestions to refer to if a friend discloses to you, here is the link to our resource on “How to Help a Friend”.