What constitutes a woman as being promiscuous? What about a man?
Melody Brooke, Co-Author "OH Wow This is Great Sex!" thinks promiscuity is the same for men and women. Here's what she had to share--
"Promiscuity" is the same whether you are male or female, in spite of how we may think about it. Promiscuity is when you have sex with multiple partners without regard for the impact that it has on either of you. When it occurs it occurs as a result of a deep lack of respect for oneself. We convince ourselves it is because we are "living large" or "having fun". But really its an attempt to control our feelings of inadequacy. We have to prove that we are "hot" or we are using sex addictively to medicate the pain we hold inside. Usually its a combination of the two. Again, this is true whether you are male or female.
What Shane Maus thinks--
Personally I find that the word promiscuous implies a level of irresponsibility or carelessness, so I believe the people that contribute to the spread of STDs and unwanted children in our society are the ones that I would identify as the most promiscuous.
Seems like a mighty good time for us to talk about condoms, plain and simple: use em' people.
Safe Sex = Good Sex
Susie Shina joins the sexversation in a powerful way--
1. A woman that has sexual encounters with several men
2. A woman that is loose
3. A woman that is fast
What constitutes a man as being promiscuous?
1. Society says nothing
Society holds women to a higher standard than men. It's not fair that men who sleep around are given a pat on the back and women are singled out and labeled whores and sluts. What about all these men out there who carry themselves like male whores? A man can be a hoe or a slut too. I think the old rule applies if it acts like a duck and quacks like a duck then we must label it as being a duck.
We, as a society, look down on casual sex among teenagers as being undisciplined and the source of unplanned pregnancy and transmission of STD's. As we get older, we make a more conscious decision as to when and with whom we engage in sexual relations. Does that make the same behavior less promiscuous? Probably not, but there does not seem to be much concern over the promiscuity of middle aged men and women.
I would propose that promiscuous behavior is that which negatively impacts other aspects of our lives: pregnancies that change the lives of teenagers and their parents, adulterous sex in committed relationships. There are clearly adults engaged in extra-marital sex that is "approved" by their partners, and I would not classify that as promiscuous behavior.
We also live in a society where we want to be "good" at things, and as Malcolm Gladwell points out in "Outliers", the way that we get good is via practice. How else does one get "good" at sex? You cannot learn how to "manipulate" another person to the desired arousal state via reading and watching alone! At some point you either need to practice on yourself or another person to see what works and what doesn't work. Our society needs to lose their obsession with controlling sexual behavior so rigorously and just begin to enjoy themselves!